Social Distancing 2020

Girlpower, Health, Home
Netflix and pink frosting

I’m glad Riley is not off to college this year of coronavirus. I would not like being “quarantined” alone. It’s hard enough not being able to see Mom and Dad or travel to my brother’s. If I couldn’t hang out with Riley, I’d go stir crazy. Even if she’s dancing in her room with the door shut or sitting at the table engrossed in “Bring It,” it’s a comfort knowing she’s here.

And while it’s been weird to spend so much time in the house, we have had fun, too. We’ve been talking about college (her future and my and her dad’s past), laughing at dumb internet memes, learning TikTok dances, reminiscing about her childhood, watching Korean dramas and 80s movies, and putting together her audition videos for the Roar, UNA’s Dance Team. She made it!

Something I haven’t done much that I thought I would is read. I have not been able to concentrate on a page. I managed to finish How to Break Up with Your Phone, but I started it before “confinement.” And, anyway, this is a hard time to be without a phone. It’s our only connection to the world outside our little duplex.

I’ve been working throughout this pandemic–full time the first two weeks, then two days a week the next three weeks, and now back to full time since the governor loosened restrictions on the Stay-at-Home orders. I hope we don’t regret that.

What We’ve Watched
Cinderella and the Four Princes
Crash Landing On You
Memories of Alhambra
Book Club (twice)
Harry Potter 1 & 2
In the Shadows of Motown
Noelle
DJ DNice Club Quarantine Instagram Live
New Kids On the Block Live
Knives Out
Bring It (Riley)
Waiting to Exhale
Romancing the Stone
Tigertail
Say Yes to the Dress (Riley)
Total Divas (Riley)
Parasite
Babyface and Teddy Riley on Instagram Live
NFL Draft
Sound of Music
Footloose (new one–Riley)
Remember the Titans
Back to the Future 1 & 2
Star Wars
Baby Boom
La Bamba
Jimmy O. Yang’s comedy special
Mulan
Brave
Little Mermaid (Riley)
Return to Neverland
The Farewell

What I’ve Downloaded
Ritchie Valens
Dixie Chicks
Babyface hits
Songs from Waiting to Exhale
Teddy Riley hits
House Party-New Kids on the Block
Neill Diamond
Hall & Oates
Songs from Club Quarantine by DNice

What I’ve Bought
Food, and a lot of it
A rug
Flatten the Curve T-shirts to benefit employee assistance fund
House Party shirts to benefit No Kid Hungry
Abide No Hatred shirt to benefit SPLC
Contacts with Transitions coating
$28 prescription eyeglasses
Two Senior 2020 yard signs (because she missed out on all the fun senior year stuff)
Senior portraits

Stay focused

Health, Home, Hustle, Sports/Fitness

Two weeks into 2018 and life has been busy. Riley started the second semester of her sophomore year, and I’ve spent every extra hour planning a seven-team, 300-dancer showcase. I sent about 200 emails and countless texts while coordinating one of Riley’s dance team’s largest fundraisers. Unfortunately, a wintry weather forecast forced its cancellation. Maybe we can come up with another fundraiser before our Nationals trip at the end of February to help offset travel costs.

Last post I talked about focusing on the word CREATE. This post I want to talk about my need to STAY FOCUSED. If I cannot stay focused on where I want to go and what I want to do and be, then creating will be out of the question. I’ll just sit around on Twitter or Facebook all night after work and get nothing accomplished. Speaking of Twitter, here’s my plan to STAY FOCUSED on my creations:

  • Less Twitter – More books
  • Less sitting – More moving
  • Less outrage – More action
  • Less outrage – More peace
  • Less multitasking – More finishing

Twitter is anxiety-inducing so I’ve cut back. I don’t need to check an app to know the president has done something to make a mockery of our country and our democracy. That’s an everyday thing now. And my books are still waiting for me, their jackets getting dusty.

In addition to “Good Booty” and my other music books, I also want to read “America’s Original Sin” about slavery and its effects today and my books on writing like “Writing Is My Drink” and “Writer With a Day Job.”

Another goal is to get physical. I spend 8-10 hours at a desk at my day job and it is terrible for my body, both inner workings and outer shell. I’ve done a few squats and pushups the last couple of days – it may not be much, but I have to start somewhere. I’m trying to make it a point to stand more at work, too, even if just for 5 minutes at a time.

Next on the list is less outrage, more action. That means not clogging up social media with anger and disbelief at what is happening in the world, but doing something to make the world better. Whether it’s helping a family navigate a hearing loss diagnosis or donating to a progressive political candidate or calling a friend or writing an article or biting my tongue when I really want to lash out at someone. Doing something will give me more peace than just being mad online.

And, finally, less multitasking, more finishing. I’ve found that when I have too many pots on the stove, something gets burned. Usually me. I’m more productive when I focus on only one or two projects at a time. Any more and I get overwhelmed and procrastinate.

Oh, and one other thing: Roll Tide! What an incredible season and comeback to win the National Championship! Because ESPN’s streaming of live events is terrible, Riley and I listened to Eli Gold on the radio. Listening to a game is a very different experience. You really have to … STAY FOCUSED!